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1. Do not quarrel in the presence of your child for respect and peace will vanish from his heart. (Quarreling with your husband, relatives, neighbors and any quarreling in your child¡¯s presence are absolutely forbidden. Calm peace is a child¡¯s happiness. Do not disturb it. If you must quarrel to prevent an urge to rather hit, go outside.)
2. Do not lie to your child for he will carry on with his life by simply going with the flow. (Whether a red lie, or a harmless white lie – do not lie to your child. Mother figure is a heaven to a child. When he cannot put his trust in his mother, he can no longer live. Let your words be truthful.)
3. Do not avoid or be inattentive to your child¡¯s questions for it will agitate his connection to the family. (Asking questions is a natural tendency of a normal child. Be attentive to a child and answer with care. An affectionate conversation between a mother and a child secures a sense of connection for a child and this will keep their hearts intact even when they are apart. Give an answer to the best of your knowledge even when you are asked a difficult question.)
4. Do not rebuke or curse your child in the presence of others for he will grow to be narrow-minded and cowardly. (Beating a child in the presence of others is an ignorant behavior, and cursing and rebuking is an unwise behavior. Dispirited child will grow to be a small-minded person. In contrast, a word of encouragement and praise are the best nutrients to a child.)
5. Do not be an erratic mother to your child for mother¡¯s consistent manner is the best education to children. (Family rules, or prior promises must be conformed consistently. Sporadic observance of the rules will confuse a child¡¯s trust and judgment. Be consistent according to the set principles and promises even at the time a visitor is present or at your busiest hour.)
6. Do not think lightly of your child for he is a precious life form created by God. (A child must also be firmly treated as an individual. Do not speak to him indifferently, do not treat him insensitively, or consider him like an appendage to a book. A child raised with proper treatment as an individual grows to be a democratic citizen having respect for others too.)
7. Do not make an unsightly face to your child for a mother¡¯s smile is a haven to a child. (An angry face, hatred-filled face, and painful face are the cause of a child¡¯s worry, fear and anxiety. A face calm and peaceful, a face full of smile will guide a child to heaven.)
8. Do not compare your child to other children for all men have God-given individualities. (Each one is given different trait, taste and strength concerning his learning abilities, personalities, and habits too. Parents and educators¡¯ role is to find a child¡¯s personal aptitude and to help him develop it. It is not interesting if everyone is alike. Diversity is part of our fun in life.)
9. Be unsparing about having to say ¡°No!¡± for saying ¡°Yes¡± all the time is equivalent to poisoning a child. (Going along with a child¡¯s wishes is not a guidance. A mother who truly cares about her child makes a composed judgment of the situation and help a child make the right choice.)
10. Do not make a materialistic person out of your child; rather teach him in his childhood to know God and about an honorable life and value. (An education of faith is indeed necessary for an entire life of a child. Let your child be taught in his early days of the path to a meaningful life devoid of serving gold.)
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